Getting What You Want

It’s getting hectic here.  Of course, it always does at this time of year, but it’s especially so this year because we’re moving house and planning our wedding.  I know I know, bad timing huh?  But sometimes in life an opportunity comes along and you just have to seize it with both hands.  So this Saturday Jonathan and I are embarking on a new adventure, and moving out into the sticks.  I face it with a mixture of excitement and trepidation.

A tad hectic at home!

A tad hectic at home!

This time of year it not just hectic externally for me, but internally too.  I always have an internal struggle, and I wonder how many other people feel the same way?  I want to lavish my family & friends with thoughtful and luxurious gifts, and yet I’m horrified by the commercialism of Christmas.

So I find myself asking what does Christmas really mean?  If we set aside for a moment those religious aspects,  although very important, for me it’s about time with family and friends and the enjoyment of one another’s company.  It’s about counting blessing and being grateful for what we have.  Not to sound too corny about it, it’s the peace and goodwill to all men sort of stuff.

And with the end of another year and the arrival of dark nights, this time of year also has a reflective quality.  A time to consider the year that has passed, and prepare for the imminent new one.  I’m not talking here about temporary new year resolutions made with a hangover and quickly forgotten.  I’m talking about looking at the bigger picture.

Another year of your life is over…are you being the person you want to be, are you doing the things that steer your life in the direction you want it to go in, and are you spending time with people who help you to do both?

Now that may mean making a resolution or two to do something different, but in order for that to be meaningful, it needs to come from something more fundamental than feeling a tad unwell because of the excesses of the season.

For me 2013 will go down as one of the best, despite the challenges I faced at the beginning of the year.  I can say that I am being the person I want to be (most of the time), I am doing the things that are steering my life in the direction I want it to go in (most of the time) and I am lucky enough to be surrounded by lots of people who help me to do both.  In short, I feel blessed beyond what I often think I deserve.  It’s wonderfully humbling and I’m hugely appreciative, and having appreciation in life is essential to creating further abundance.

So here’s a tip to help you have more appreciation next New Year’s Eve.

What's important to you?

What’s important to you?

Find a box, jar, vase or some other receptacle that you can have in a prominent place.  Then throughout the year, every time something good happens, big or small, write it on a piece of paper and put it in your box, jar or vase.

At New Year’s Eve open it up and read all the wonderful things you have experienced.  It will improve your appreciate of what has gone, allow you to relive all the wonderful things that have happened and help you realise what’s important to you as you prepare your plan for the next year.

Then use those feelings of appreciation, along with insights of what’s important to you, to start creating the life that you want.

Merry Christmas, a peaceful new year, and love and light to you and yours.

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About me

Allison Agius lives in the North East of England with her husband.  They have five children between them. 

When she’s not working or writing she spends her time riding her Honda Hornet (in the summer), running (in the summer) and eating chocolate!