How would you cope if you could hear everyone’s thoughts?


That’s what Kate Gregory, the protagonist in my latest fiction novel, The Lost Voice, has had to face every day of her life.

Writing the book was an interesting experience, and it obviously got me wondering what this would be like in our society.

I mean, imagine if you could hear what your lover, parent, child, friend, boss, staff, co-worker, girl in the shop, were thinking?  Imagine hearing what they really thought about you?  Imagine if they could hear what you thought about them?

All the social game playing would be out the window for a start.  They’d be no room for manipulation or lies.  We’d know exactly what other people thought of us, and they would know what we thought of them.

Latest book from Allison AgiusAt first the idea horrified me.  I know, what does that say about me right?  But seriously, sometimes I find myself thinking things that appall me, and I have to have a word with myself, and after giving myself a metaphorical slap, I practice self compassion and explore where they might be coming from.

In truth, I’m of the belief that, if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all – unless asked, then gentle honesty is required.  But I’m working to take a step further back than that, namely, if you can’t say anything nice, what on earth’s the matter with you?

Every person, event, every situation, has it’s positives and, yes, sometimes we need to dig a little deeper to find it, but it is there.  It’s just that you may have to shift your viewpoint a little…or a lot!

I got to thinking that this premise of hearing each others thoughts wouldn’t be all bad.

On the upside, you wouldn’t need to ask, ‘really?’ when someone said, ‘no’, to the question, ‘does my bum look big in this?’, because you’d know.

They’d be an honesty between us that would strengthen the bonds of friendship, and our compassion for each other would grow, because we’d know, we all do it, make mistakes, make wrong choices, make judgements, even when we don’t mean to.

We wouldn’t have to hide aspects of ourselves, and we couldn’t project them onto others, because everyone would know, including ourselves, what we were up to.  Instead we could examine our negative beliefs about ourselves and others, and clean them up. Maybe we’d even hold the space for each other while we explored what was really going on beneath those mistakes, wrong choices and judgments, helping each other reclaim the pieces of ourselves we have lost along the way.

No, on reflection it wouldn’t be bad at all.

So,  whether you choose to read The Lost Voice or not, here’s a challenge for you.

Why don’t you have a look at the mistakes, wrong choices and judgments you’ve made, and instead of putting them ‘out there’, adopt some self compassion and look ‘in-here’ instead?

Reclaiming a piece of yourself, no matter how small, is powerful stuff!  I highly recommend it.

 

The Lost Voice is available from Amazon in Kindle and paperback format

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About me

Allison Agius lives in the North East of England with her husband.  They have five children between them. 

When she’s not working or writing she spends her time riding her Honda Hornet (in the summer), running (in the summer) and eating chocolate!